“You’d like to think that your gift will perpetuate into a strand of good deeds. When the good deed ends with someone, it feels a bit like you’re being taking advantage of. The person you rescued, maybe the good fortune you brought to them will help them to help others. The folks who you felt you may have enabled bad behavior, things have a way of catching up to people like that. Its easier said than done, of course, but I try to steer clear of thoughts & machinations of punishment, they only lead to distress and unhappiness; instead look forward to helping those who help others. The selfish folks, they never seem to be happy, at least not for long; and as I get older I try to just steer clear of them.”
See the above comment I received in an e-mail today. It makes several excellent points. And I was thinking along those same lines/comments this morning after another “moment” in which I had a clear “understanding” of just how the enabling and the helping fit together:
In summary of two comments I’ve had to this particular blog to date,
1. A gift is a gift is a gift! Give unconditionally, period!
2. Don’t try to analyze or force situations……..give and let go!
3. Use your intuition, your gut feelings, your sense of “I should do this now”, or “I should not do this now” to guide your actions in all matters.
LET GO AND LET GOD, keeps coming to mind! Nobody has appointed us Team Captains!
“Let go and let God.” I like that! Very nicely put. And, as a gardener, you have beautiful examples of that right in your own yard. You meticulously prepare the soil, plant the seed, water, fertilize, etc.., but the actual growth is not up to you. Sometimes they grow, sometimes they don’t. Sometimes they bloom, sometimes they don’t. You do your best, enjoy the ones that bloom, and don’t beat yourself up for the ones that don’t. (I sound like the Chance the Gardener character in the movie “Being There.” Remember him? Great movie!)