One of the hardest things for us to learn is that we can’t help everybody and shouldn’t!
Wanting to and being able to help people are two different things! If you have a good heart and giving spirit, you naturally want to help everybody you meet to have a “better life”. But a “better life” compared to what? Your ideal for it or theirs? What right do you have to tell them that your view is better than theirs? You may believe that your advice is just what they want and need to adopt in order to make things better. But is it really?!
You take your path, they have to take theirs. It all comes down to CHOICE!
When people ask your advice and don’t take it………what do/should you do?
Bless them and let them go. They need to follow their heart and go down the road they have chosen. If that road isn’t your road, you each must go your own way. That doesn’t mean that you “cut them off” or never have contact with them again, but constant rehashing of the same old themes and stories and reasons does no help.
If asked, give your advice. If they take it, work with them to find their happiness. If they don’t then bless them and let them go down the road they have chosen. Sometimes it’s hard to turn and let them go on their own……………..but it’s their choice so let them do it! If you don’t you are still saying, “You’ve made the wrong choice!”, please let me change your mind! If they have made a “bad” choice they will find that out on their own.
But they don’t need you constantly telling them what they are doing is wrong!
What if YOU WERE WRONG and they are right? Think about it!