WHY DO YOU GO TO THE CEMETARY?
DO YOU THINK THE PERSON YOU GO TO SEE IS THERE? OR IF THEY AREN’T THERE, WHEN YOU GO THEY WILL KNOW IT AND COME RIGHT AWAY?
OR IT MAKES YOU FEEL BETTER OR GOOD JUST GOING THERE?
I’M SURE SOME PEOPLE SAY YES TO THE ABOVE QUESTIONS. FOR THEM IT IS THE RIGHT THING TO GO!
ALL OF MY LIFE I’VE BEEN TO CEMETARIES TO “HONOR” THOSE WHO HAVE PASSED BEFORE US. A LOT OF BOOKS I’VE READ MADE IT SEEM LIKE THE ONES WE WENT TO SEE THERE ACTUALLY KNEW IT AND GOING MADE ALL OF US FEEL BETTER/HAPPY!
SO WHEN I’D GO TO SEE THE PEOPLE WHO HAD BEEN THE CLOSEST TO ME (IN MY WHOLE LIFE), I EXPECTED TO FEEL SOMETHING LIKE COMFORT, MAYBE SEE SOMETHING, HEAR SOMETHING…………..ANYTHING. YES, ANYTHING AT ALL!
BUT NOTHING! EVEN WHEN I MY MOTHER DIED AND WAS BURIED…………..DURING THE FIRST YEAR AFTER HER DEATH I’D TAKE FLOWERS, SIT/VISIT EXPECTING SOMETHING TO HAPPEN. NOTHING DID! SO I QUIT GOING! NOTE NOW THAT THIS IS AFTER HAVING PUT FLOWERS ON RELATIVES, FRIENDS AND GOING TO FUNERALS FOR ALL KINDS OF PEOPLE OUT OF RESPECT TO THEM OR THEIR FAMILIES.
I’M A BIG FLOWER PERSON…………REAL FLOWERS……..NOTHING FAKE!
I DECIDED THAT I WOULD PLANT A CAMELIA BUSH AT A CERTAIN LOCATION IN OUR YARD AND THAT WOULD BE THE PLACE THAT I WOULD “VISIT MY MOTHER”. 9 YEARS NOW AND WHEN I GO THERE I FEEL NOTHING. DOES THIS MEAN THAT SHE ISN’T THERE? THAT SHE IS SOMEWHERE BUT WON’T COME OR CAN’T COME OR THAT SHE ISN’T ANYWHERE? AND WHY DON’T I FEEL ANYTHING? I WILL CONTINUE TO CARE FOR THE BUSH AND WILL “VISIT THERE”….JUST IN CASE!
NOBODY KNOWS WHAT IS ON THE OTHER SIDE…………..OR EVEN IF THERE IS AN “OTHER SIDE”! OH YES! BOOKS HAVE BEEN WRITTEN ABOUT IT, AND SOME CLAIM TO HAVE BEEN THERE AND COME BACK BUT THEIR STORIES DIFFER IN A LOT OF AREAS……….SO WHAT IS THE TRUTH!?
SINCE I’M NOT READY TO DIE TO FIND OUT, I’M STILL GOING TO BELIEVE THAT WHEN I DIE I WILL JUST LEAVE ONE STAGE OF REALITY AND MOVE INTO ANOTHER. NOT DIE, JUST CHANGE FORMS. AND CONTINUE TO LEARN AND GROW AND LOVE AND LIVE AND MOVE CLOSER TO TOTAL BLISS…….WHATEVER THAT IS! BUT I THINK IT IS JUST BEING ECSTATICALLY HAPPY ALWAYS AND FOREVER! I CAN LIVE WITH THAT!
Interesting post – as always! I have a question for you: have there been situations or occasions in your recent life that have made you feel your mother’s presence, or have caused you to have a very strong memory of her? If going to the cemetery or visiting the special camellia haven’t triggered that feeling, then maybe you can think of a time that has. I think sometimes we put too much emphasis on places – like having to go to church to feel the presence of God – as opposed to feeling his presence when you simply look at a sunset or hear a child laugh. Maybe the same goes for spiritual connections to our late loved ones.