I’m against it! But it isn’t as simple as that! Nothing that is a “hot topic’ such as gay marriage is simple to have an opinion about.

I believe that any relationship can survive and thrive without any legal or binding document to declare or seal the agreement between the involved individuals……………..emotionally!  We live in a complicated society and without some type of legal documentation expressing our wishes…….in times of death, illness, divorce, hardships, etc. our wishes may not be respected and carried out! So for those reasons some type of “legal documentation” is a great idea!

For “gay people” or any couple or groups there are plenty of options for legal protection of our wishes and intentions without having a conventional marriage.

Why not have a gay marriage…………..why am I against it?

For any society to succeed in maintaining order and prospering with happiness, the rules for living legally and “understood rules and mores” must be followed or stability won’t be realized.

The majority of people, at least in the United States don’t believe in gay marriage. To force it on them by trying to make it o.k. and accepted by the masses only makes them dislike it and the people who push it on them even more.

I believe if you live in a democracy and the majority of the people believe in the morality or legality of a certain issue effecting the masses you should honor the majority………especially if you are not directly effected by it!  And to me gay marriage having it or not does not limit me in any way. I’ve taken care of my legal and personal affairs in other ways.

Every one has the right to believe differently than I do.

Points to Ponder: 1. If you know that a snake will bite you if you hit it or step on it, why not avoid it?!

2. If you know where the sharks are…………..why go in the water?!

Pursue Happiness…………not discord and danger! Be Happy! Don’t Worry!

About Life's Lessons- Last Times

A gentleman having traveled down many roads. I've made my life easier by reading books by other people who have had trips down different roads than I have. I want to help others by sharing my efforts to understand change in ways they might understand and benefit from. Life is good...............just not always easy! Author, 4 short plays Actor, 2 movies, Board Chair of Local Theater , Gardener, Barbershop Quartet member
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  1. This is a really great post! Reminds me why I learn so much from you. I think you hit it on the head when you stated that the Gay Marriage issue is not about the relationship, but rather the forcing of views on others. We spoke about this issue in our Constitutional Law class and our teacher basically showed us that, if and when, the argument comes before the Court they will have to legalize it because it is unconstitutional given other Supreme Court precedent. However, times are moving quickly, society is becoming more and more accepting with each generation. Why through a bomb in this progress and force people when it is clear that with due time it wont be that big of a deal. The issue with Gay Marriage is not if it should be, but rather WHEN it should be legallized.

    I think people also forget that this can greatly influence all aspects of individual’s lives, not just relationship statuses on facebook. Issurance is one big thing that would have to change! We have made big strides in that Living Wills between gay couples is enforceable and gay couples are now being able in places to adopt children together! These are the issues that matter – issues that concern the living of your life!

    The BEST point of your post is that fact that gay couples CAN protect themselves and their partners through other legal remedies: Living Wills, Wills, etc. Make sure that you know and dictate who will be making big medical and financial decisions for you, god forbid something should happen to you. Living Wills are great in that you can stipulate who gets to make decisions for you medically should you be incapable. Supreme Court has held that these MUST be enforced. Protect not only yourself, but those you love.

    I personally, will be elated when the Supreme Court allows gay couples to marry!

    I just wanted to post and let you know I’m an avid reader of your blog and thought your post was very elegantly said.

    • Many thanks for your comment about my blog. I had no idea you were following it. By commenting or requesting topics that I blog about you give me the inspiration to keep on doing it. By “Outing myself” on my blog I opened my private life up to a lot of people and perhaps have lost some followers. BUT I believe that if you believe in something you must say so! “If you don’t stand for something, you’ll fall for anything!” That’s a great old country song! Feel free to share my blog link with others……………let me know other topics that I should “blog about”! Thanks again for your letting me know “there are people out there that are interested in what I have to say”! ral

  2. Jenks Farmer says:

    I don’t need the state to sanctify my relationship. I have my own dignity of self and relationship. But, morally, society has not done the right thing. Businesses do not do the right thing. In all ways, we are discriminated against, no matter that our families and friends love us.

    No one, not even states with ‘marriage’, not even companies with ‘tolerance’ offer a comprehensive, completely equal, legal contract that you speak of. It’s an illusion that gay couples can protect themselves — it’s elitist thinking and simply wrong. Yes, we can minimize the impact. ‘Making strides in legal options for protections’ is not adequate. Hence, society has made marriage the only option to pursue for gay people — who deserve the same financial and legal protections as other people. You and I are educated and can afford a good lawyer who covers us as much as can be done. But what about young, poor and less educated gay people who do not have that?

    I should be able to buy into the health plan of my partner who is a government employee. I should be able to inherit his 401K without penalty. Those are just two little examples of how things are unequal. Instead, I have horrid health insurance (it’s a 60% 40% policy that cost $200 per month) and I or he will pay huge tax to receive any benefit at the others death. Neither of us (nor you) are eligible for Social Security on the death of the other. My friend in the army, cannot get benefits or death benefits for his partner. If he dies in war, DIES IN WAR, protecting all of us. His family is treated as second class, just as the family of our first female astronaught, who died recently was denied federal benefits that her peers are entitled too (if I recall, that was valued at close to $100,000.)

    All those things and similar contribute to an unequal playing field not just in life but in business. I’m a small business owner, a start up, but via those discrimination, I have struggles and cost that my straight colleagues do not have such as insurance issues.

    So I am directly effected by the discrimination of straight people. I believe most do not even realize the impact of policies and laws that they benefit from as discrimination against me. By the way, honoring the majority is not democracy. If society wanted equality, we wouldn’t be in the is position. But either, most people don’t care about our plight or most people prefer to maintain the discrimination because the benefit from it. Minimizing the impact via legal protections is not adequate. This is a crass analogy, but a person who’s being gang raped may be able to minimize the impact of the violence. But that doesn’t make the majority moral, nor reduce the impact on that persons who’s entire life, emotional, financial, social, legal life is impacted by the action of majority.

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